When my wife and I are out and about, I sometimes look around and think 'How did this person wind up with that person? What's the circumstances that brought them together?' Many times it's obvious, but other times...not so much.
I'm sure my friends probably thought the same thing when they met my wife. Personality-wise, we seem to be polar opposites. Even though we both have a great capacity for imagination, mine is more grounded in reality where my wife's is.....well, not. For her there is nothing that isn't possible. The only thing ever standing in her way is minor obstacles.
She's definitely a 'glass half full' type where I'm still wondering how the glass got there and who's going to empty it.
We started out as a long distance relationship. I lived in Northern Kentucky and she in Vero Beach, Florida. A place I had never even heard of, much less knew where it was. When we first started talking about taking our relationship to the next level, I was stumbling over logistics while her first statement was, "We'll make it work."
And we did.
When I (hesitantly) told her about my writing ambitions, she didn't scoff, laugh, or roll her eyes. She got this huge grin on her face and said "I can't wait to read your first book and then see it in the movies!" She's behind me, on whatever I want to do, 110%.
She's not only a dreamer, but she's a BIG dreamer. Initially her attitude had me flummoxed, but the more I was exposed to it, the more I started thinking along the same lines she did. While I still think my ground in reality is still more stable than hers, I'm learning to let some of it go and really wonder just what might happen if we dream big. When I saw the picture above, my wife was the first person I thought of....for many reasons.
As long as I've known her, she's been talking about getting an RV and travelling around in it. Now, when she first brought it up, I mentioned things like money, working around a job schedule, things like that. Her reply was, "Yes, I know....we can work that stuff out later."
And I'm sure we will.
Lately, I've found myself applying that same attitude towards my writing. Finish 'that book'? Of course. No doubt about it. How can I be so confident? Well, as a wise person once told me....
"We can work that stuff out later."
Blessings continue to abound.
Hope you all have a great week.
16 comments:
I think our wives might be related. I'm a planner, she just does.
I don't know if this is an actual "old saying" or just something that feels old to me. But... if you believe you can do something, you can. And if you believe you can't... well, of course, you can't. Our belief system about what is possible actually determines what is possible.
Now, I remember that saying... If you believe it, you can achieve it. No idea who who said it.
I am glad you have someone who is in your corner:)
I think that quote of Robin's is Walk Disney, but not sure. A wealthy business man I know always said "When the dream's big enough, the facts don't count."
I'm not grounded either. If I get an idea, I'm off and running before I let myself think about it too much. I tease my husband that he is my reality check.
What a stirring tribute to your wife. I had to blink back a few tears. I know you'll get that book done too.
What a wonderful attitude she has Mark.
Reading about your wife made me think of my mother and father. This is exactly what they were like together. She was like your wife, he was like you. I strive to be like my mother, though it seems I was born a worrier and she really doesn't get that! So I try to remember "we'll work all that stuff out later" every day! What a great post, and tribute to your lovely wife!
Hi Mark - so pleased and happy for you both - it's great to be able to bolster each other and compliment your journeys .. cheers Hilary
You sound a lot like me and my spouse. We had many, many people ask us how in the world we got married.
I'm so glad you have someone who supports you and who helps you expand your horizons. I did too and I know how good that can be.
Oh, I want to be best friends with your wife, Mark. Awesome. Loved all of this. :)
It's cool to have someone behind you 110% - especially a dreamer. Sometimes we can get so tied up in the practicals that we don't get anything done!
Your wife sounds awesome. I'm more like you - wondering who is going to empty the glass LOL. I'm trying to have an attitude more like your wife's - still got a way to go but getting there. :)
Such an inspirational post. I have RV dreams.
I think my husband must be in league with your wife and Alex's wife - he always is behind big ideas 110%. He is sure that someday one of my novels is going to be a bestseller. His attitude is a huge blessing.
I'm so glad to hear your blessings! I hope you have many, many more.
Have a blessed, wonderful weekend!
I've been absent around here and just felt like paying a visit. I'm glad I did. Your and your wife's attitude helps me to shift mine in a positive direction. Thanks, Mark and thank you also to your wise other-half.
Have a great weekend.
Hi, Mark,
I love your wife's attitude! I am somewhere between the two of you. OUT there ... but grounded.
You are truly blessed to have a dreamer in your life. She will keep your imagination going and smooth out the rough edges when life's journey is bumpy...
What a lovely tribute to her...
Keep writing buddy....You'll get there.
Every relationships need a dreamer or you'll have no dreams. Lovely post.
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